2. First date advice: get in geek2geek with all the mindset that you will be interviewing your date-not “I hope she or he likes me personally.” Keep conversation reasonably light and never badmouth your ex or mention your breakup. Think about the response to the concern: “Why do you get divorced?” Understand what you are likely to state. Sugarcoat it but don’t lie. Plus, nobody really wants to hear “My asshole ex owes me personally $1500 and will not spend.